As an empath and highly sensitive person, I’ve spent a lifetime learning about this topic. And I’ve spent a good, many years teaching other women how to erect healthy boundaries and avoid toxic relationships in their own lives.
You would be shocked to learn how linked this issue is with chronic illness. I’ve helped women heal everything from severe cervical dysplasia to chronic pain to hormonal imbalance and infertility, by (among other things) weeding toxic relationships out of their lives.
For myself, after breaking off so many friendships in my thirties and forties, and then leaving my marriage because of covert narcissism, I felt myself an expert on the subject, having studied everything there is to know.
But just when I thought I’d turned over every stone, and was immune to selfish, using, insensitive people who never take responsibility for their actions, all while claiming victim status, I’ve once again found myself in the orbit of such a woman. A woman who I’ve called my friend.
It started out great. She was smart and charming. We loved to sing together. We talked about divorce and children, health, sex and dating. She was the type of friend I could really have fun with.
But mostly, there was something that instantly “clicked” with her. She felt familiar. A deep comfort. Like home. And THIS is where I’ve learned to become wary.
You see, these types of feelings indicate your “Love Code.” Where it feels most comfortable to “attach” to another. It’s how you were imprinted for love, from the earliest age, with your very first relationship to your primary caregiver. It’s what feels like intimacy.
Many of us empaths and ultra-sensitives, have been encoded to draw in those that are needy and selfish, due to our “love code.” If you have this tendency, please know that it’s not your fault. It’s simply what got imprinted, during a time of life where there were no options or awareness of anything other.
But now, you DO have awareness. Actually, I’m sure that you’re a very evolved and conscious person who knows that change and growth are natural and inevitable. You have grit and fortitude. And that’s why I know that this issue can change too. With the proper understanding, support and tools, this too will shift. We can find loving, supportive and giving people to share our lives with. Currently, mine is almost full with them.
How about you??? If you suspect that unhealthy relationships have taken up more room in your life than you realized, and may be contributing to your health issue, please feel free to reach out for support.
I’m offering a limited number of Healing Insight Calls this week, to help you gain awareness into your situation, and to see if emotional and energetic underpinnings may be keeping you from healing.
Let me know, because space is limited. Simply CLICK HERE to schedule your session.
Also, feel free to pass this information along to friends and family that are in need of this healing.
With Love and Healing,